Category Archives: trying to please others

Uncovering the Past

Posted on July 30, 2018 by peírama

I took a trip recently to help my dad move. He has lived in the same house for 23 years, during which I went to middle school and high school, then moved away for college and slowly began to visit … Continue reading →

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Unpaid Work

Posted on June 25, 2018 by SweetScience

It’s summer! I can hardly believe it – for the first time in 20 years I have an actual summer vacation with no job to do, until I teach again this fall! Only… that’s not really true at all. I … Continue reading →

Posted in academia, early career scientist, efficiency, finishing postdoctoral training, flexibility, new job, publishing, research, teaching, time management, trying to please others, work-life balance | 1 Comment

Your boss can’t always be your mentor

Posted on January 9, 2017 by SweetScience

“You shouldn’t be afraid to tell your boss exactly what you want to do for your next step – it’s their job to mentor you,” is the advice I have given many people, particularly grad students and postdocs who decide … Continue reading →

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“I do it for all the little girls”

Posted on November 15, 2016 by SweetScience

So we didn’t shatter that highest glass ceiling yet. Like many people, since last week I’ve been trying to stay positive and think of things I/we can do to promote a better, supportive society. A recent article in the New … Continue reading →

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Why I stopped faking it

Posted on February 22, 2016 by Curiouser&Curiouser

When I was in grad school I felt like I wasn’t good enough and at the same time that I deserved to have it all – perfect grades, grants, awards, fantastic publications, a great social life and a happy family. My … Continue reading →

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A Sugarcoated Dance of Hostility

Posted on March 30, 2015 by saraswatiphd

Why take a class on conflict? Last week I attended a class through a career development-like center, called “The Nature of Conflict.” The class was taught by a conflict management specialist (I didn’t even know there was such a position) … Continue reading →

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